Couples Therapy

While couples seek therapy for various reasons, and at various times in their relationships, communication and conflict resolution skills are almost always involved in the therapy. Most of us consciously know that we cannot change our partner, yet often struggle to refocus where we need to… on self-change. The only behavior we can change in a relationship is our own, and the most effective way to improve our relationships is to focus on changing ourselves. Generally, this means reducing emotional reactivity and working to communicate our feelings, needs, and wants in a self-focused, calm manner… much easier said than done!

Some partners come into therapy ambivalent about staying in the relationship, and yet can still benefit. Couples may choose to use therapy to assist them in healthy “un-coupling,” and/or to continue being cooperative “co-parents” to their children, despite ending their couple relationship.

When partners are motivated and committed to getting their relationship back “on track,” both must be willing and able to identify and “own” their part in the relationship problems and struggles. In couples therapy, partners will be asked to identify their vision for the relationship and for themselves as individuals. It’s pretty hard to create a map if we don’t know where we want to end up.

Additionally, it is crucial that partners committed to “saving” their relationship focus on increasing their positive interactions, not just reducing negative dynamics. This will be a central focus of our work together. It is only through positive attachment that relationships grow and feed both partners.

For more information on how I work with couples, or to schedule a consultation, please contact me. For more information on couples therapy, please visit: www.couplesinstitute.com.

I provide my services to the highest ethical standards and my relationships with my clients are strictly confidential. As such, I must inform you that the information provided in this Website is offered for informational purposes only; it is not offered as and does not constitute professional advice. Replies to e-mail messages will be general in nature and will not form a therapist-client relationship. Be aware that the confidentiality of information sent over the Internet, including e-mail, may not be legally or otherwise protected or secure.